I need to get that stuff, you know, it comes in sliced, in packages, you use it for toast?

That is a literal question I asked someone because I couldn’t remember the word “bread”. Brain fog isn’t anything new for me, but the increase in frequency, and severity of the lapses, has started to concern me. My professor thinks I’m slacking because I had things in at the last second, even when it’s something I already had an extension for. I reassured her that I wasn’t procrastinating. For me to actually retain even a few bits of the material, I need to take my time working on the subject matter. If I miss a lecture, which I have, I don’t just play it and write up a generalized summary to meet the requirements. I listen to a few minutes, pause to take notes, then continue on with the lecture.

Notes on a  two hour lecture typically takes me 6-8 hours.

I need those notes for tests, only in this class, test times don’t really allow for you to dig stuff up in notes or on the books. (I take classes online since I can’t make it to campus anymore.) Another reason for taking accurate notes, is that I love the material. It was different in classes I found incredibly boring. It was material I really wouldn’t use again, and I had no interest. In this class I am interested, it’s just also complex, and contains a lot of minute details. If I can’t remember that bread is what you use to make toast, how am I supposed to grasp the ridge counting system and pattern equations you use to fill out a fingerprint card? (Important side note…I had to take a few minutes to remember the word equation. Sometimes I’ll get annoyed and just look up key words I know related to the word I’m forgetting, but this time I’m proud I figured it out eventually.)

My brain and body are screaming at me to just sleep. I’ve gone from embarrassment of needing a wheelchair, to impatience regarding the length of time it will take to get one. I’m still worried I’ll end up single forever, but I also understand that right now the key is staying alive and protecting my brain from my body’s overly active and very confused immune system.

Most of us who are chronically ill, have had someone judge us as lazy, or we’ve been labeled as procrastinators. We’ve seen the eye rolls, or lost friends because we ran late to often, or cancelled plans.

If I have to be somewhere at 6pm, I start getting ready around 3pm, because I know I’ll need breaks. I also go to bed early, and sleep in, the night before.  If I’m sore, I shower more than once, and take baths to get my muscles as relaxed as possible. I longingly will eye my high heeled shoes, before grabbing my sensible flats. Picking an outfit depends on how long the event will be, and how swollen my various body parts are. Since most of my swelling right now is in my lower abdomen, I have to plan for how that looks. Shape wear?  No way. The pain that results from attempting to contain a bulge that is actually my intestines, colon, ulcers, and of course stool, is beyond explanation.

Last night I saw a movie. It was amazing to go out, but the process began the day before. I tried to be cautious about what I ate, as I usually am, but because I’d eaten a bit more than my intestines could handle, I had a very obvious swelling of my lower abdomen. No worries, we can just kind of layer two tops and hope that it isn’t as noticeable. Makeup? Yeah, that’s fun when you’re arms and legs are weak. I need to get a full length mirror so I can sit and do it easier. Right now I have a rigged up way of doing it that allows me to sit in my bathroom sink so I can use the medicine cabinet mirror to do my makeup.

No, I am not joking.

Forget cleaning up any mess that was made while doing my makeup and hair, if I clean it up, I’ll be too tired, and I was already running 15 minutes late. Now the whole trying to get to my friends house. He’s only like a 5-10 minute walk away, and the weather is nice, but I know that the walk would drain me. It used to be something I wouldn’t think twice about. My part of the city has a free ride electric car that goes around, but alas, there were no available drivers. Plan B was a Lyft Line, but the wait was 10+ minutes, and by this point I am so tired, I really need to take some Zofran. Shift to a regular Lyft which costs more, but doesn’t involve a wait.

So I get in the Lyft, and I’m regretting my large purse, but whatever, I can unload things once I get to his place. As much as  I want to see the movie, I’m considering just going back inside and going to bed, and it’s only like 4pm.

This is where things get really important: I didn’t give up.

I relaxed a bit at his place, he got food (I watched him eat it because that’s what I do now haha), and he was nice and got us a Lyft to the movie theater. Usually it would have been a walk, but I wanted to enjoy the movie. The mall had several flights of stairs that I needed to climb to get up to the theater. The elevator on the side we were on was broken. (Of course…) So we go up stairs, stairs I’ve climbed dozens of times. My legs hurt, parts go numb, I’m starting to wonder if I should just sit down, but I don’t want to make a scene. I start moving slower and slower, but eventually we get to the top. I’m in pain, but we’re there. After enjoying the movie, I remind myself that I need to make it back to see Star Wars, but that perhaps I’ll go alone so I can use the stairs or my walker.

After the movie I did a really dumb thing. We were walking around looking for a specific shop, but we couldn’t find it. We walked and walked and eventually we were almost back at his apartment. So he asked if I was cool with just finishing the walk and I said I was.

But I wasn’t.

Today, I am paying a price. Brain fog is extremely intense, the urge to just keep sleeping is preventing me from doing a decent job on my homework. Have you ever worked out really hard, and you have really sore muscles the next day, where even lifting your spoon is painful? That’s where I’m at. I was having muscle and joint pain before, but pushing myself beyond my limits was just plain stupid.

Lesson: regardless of what you think other people with think of you for using assistive devices, or refusing to walk when the distance is considered walkable, listen to your logical brain. 

I could go to bed right now, and it’s only 5:40pm. I have homework to do, so I can’t just sleep. I could take a bath to ease the pain, but eventually I’ll have to get out. Plus the hot water is a dangerous scenario with my autonomic nervous system being such a bastard lately. Plan is to take a lot of homework breaks, think as much as I can about the homework topics, and if I really need to sleep, then I will let my body sleep.

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I need to get that stuff, you know, it comes in sliced, in packages, you use it for toast?

Realizing I’m Not Procrastinating…and It’s Okay

So I’ve been trying to do homework for the majority of the last few days. I will get some done, but inevitably fall asleep, or lose focus. Prior to getting really sick, this wasn’t an issue. I could watch complex shows, and catch on quickly, every single time. There was no such thing as me not being able to focus on an assignment. Sure, I’d procrastinate, but when I sat down to actually do the assignment, I’d do the assignment. Today, I sat down to do the assignment, and I simply couldn’t answer more than one question at a time without requiring a break equal to the amount of time I put into answering the question…or even longer.

I’ve had to accept a few things about this whole prospect. The first thing is that I’m under an insane amount of stress, and that stress breeds an inability to focus. Even if you want to focus, and aren’t actively thinking about bills, and you know, dying alone…you’re still stressed somewhere in the back of your head. Oh anxiety and depression, you spiteful little bitches you. The second thing, that is really important to acknowledge, is the sheer amount of medication required to keep me alive. Some of which causes sleepiness, while others make it hard for me to sleep. Even the marijuana I use for nausea can make me lose focus. Of course without it I’d be throwing up, or focused on trying not to throw up, so I guess that is a matter of perspective. Fourth, I’m not eating normally. My GI motility has seriously taken a nose dive, and this makes me bloated, nauseas, and unable to provide myself with proper nutrition. Lastly is just flat out brain fog itself, as a result of the nutrition, but also because of my brain.

I have a neurological condition, and sometimes the most basic activities require more energy for me, than they would for the average human. My brain itself is also not running on all cylinders.

When my muscles are fatigued, or weak, I have to really focus on not falling over. When my balance is off, which is always, I have to deal with the same thing. I stopped to really think about my movements the other day, by watching how other people moved, and I was forced to admit that I really do walk differently, hold things differently, even sit differently. A lot of what I have to do, takes more effort, and therefore makes me more  tired. Therefore…my brain is just spent.

Brain fog itself is a problem. They don’t know what causes it, or why, but some of us folks with chronic illnesses, just lose our abilities to focus. It used to be every so often, but lately it’s more often than not. When someone tells me I’ll like a show, I have to say I’ll watch it, but then admit to myself it’ll take a special situation for me to actually watch it. I don’t want to miss things, or not enjoy it, simply because I’m working hard to focus on it. The last time I watched a show I actually enjoyed, I fell asleep during the second episode. People assume that means I’m not interested, but the reality is the opposite. I get so interested that I’m trying harder to focus, which results in my falling asleep, or losing focus. Literally can’t win!

So, now that this is done, I shall go back to trying my best to finish some homework before bed. It’s hard because I used to be the night owl who could write an essay in an evening. I don’t know how to adjust to being the student who can’t stay awake, and has to plan out her coursework meticulously in order to get things done on time.

 

Realizing I’m Not Procrastinating…and It’s Okay

It Will Be Fine – Hugs Toilet

After a few weeks of waiting impatient, my GI appointment finally came. Unfortunately the doctor told me that there wasn’t anything he could do. Apparently there are GI motility specialists, and this doctor suggested that I see a specific GI motility doctor. Of course, that meant my appointment today didn’t offer much. On top of that, the motility doctor won’t see me until I have a referral from a regular gastroenterologist. The good news was that I have seen the GI in that practice  before…the bad news is that I never had the follow up testing because I started chemotherapy.

The GI doctor can’t see me until the end of February…and then I’d need to have two tests done before they would even refer me to the motility specialist. 

Understandably I was discouraged. The receptionist was super sweet, and they’ve phoned in a symptoms consult with a nurse so that they can at least attempt to help me manage the nausea, heartburn, and dehydration. I’ve explained that I don’t vomit because I fight it and refuse to eat or drink. They have me on a cancellation list so I can hopefully see the doctor sooner.

The GI doctor I saw made it clear that, despite what the wait may end up being to see the motility doctor, not to get my hopes up. The treatment options for gastroparesis are slim, and of the drug options, I’m not a candidate for two of the three. The antibiotic option isn’t a good plan due to allergies. The second drug causes neurological issues, and I already have neurological issues, so it’s not an option for me. The third drug works great…but isn’t FDA approved for use in the U.S. yet.

There was mention of the ability to buy it online from Mexico and Canada…

I had asked about IV fluid therapy, but he wasn’t comfortable starting me on that since they wouldn’t be treating me for gastroparesis. I asked if they could treat me for the dehydration caused by my nausea and appetite…and he said they could have if it weren’t for the fact that the cause was gastroparesis.

Yes, without a diagnosis, I’d be given fluids and medications. Since we know what is wrong, I can’t get treatment…unless it’s from a doctor who is a specialist in that diagnosis.

For years I didn’t have a diagnosis for my Behcet’s. I was treated solely based on my symptoms. Now I’m in a situation where the cause is known…but I can’t get treatment. I was given a medication for severe constipation because, to be blunt, I haven’t had a normal bowel movement in months. I take enough over the counter laxatives to treat a herd of elephants, and yet I’m still…well…stuck. There is no guarantee that the medication they gave me will work, either, but they seem to think it’s worth a shot.

Rheumatology still hasn’t said anything about moving up my IVIG trial start date…which would be fine, but they won’t send me for IV fluids either. My sole option is to do it on my own, which my rheumatologist is okay with (and endorses emphatically)…but yeah, I need to find my friend’s doctor who does it. At least insurance will cover it, but it’s starting to feel shady.

I guess the lesson is, as long as your doctor knows that you’re doing certain things to manage your disorders, it’s worth trying ones that aren’t exactly conventional.

Today was definitely not a win, but it wasn’t really a loss either. I’m still lonely, and nauseas, but hopefully I can at least begin to move towards things to help me feel physically better. The emotional work is a bit harder, but still so worth it.

It Will Be Fine – Hugs Toilet

Don’t Make Decisions When You’re Panicking

My friend Molly lives in Mexico. She works in the U.S., but she lives in Mexico, and she loves it. Lately I’ve been struggling financially. That’s a lie, I’m drowning financially. As I try and come up with ways to stem the financial hemorrhage, while my symptoms increase, my mind starts to scramble, I start to tell myself I should just run. It isn’t rational, and I know it…but I can’t help but embrace the flight after so spending so much time embracing the fight.

This is why you don’t make a decision while you’re panicking.

In the past month, I’ve thought about moving to Virginia, North Carolina, New York, Washington DC, Washington State, Los Angeles, and Texas. This isn’t an over exaggeration. If anything, I’m forgetting a state or two. The only real reason I haven’t moved forward is that I love it where I am, and the thought of having to move myself, and two dogs, wherever, is daunting. I’d also have to rent my room out.

It isn’t undoable, it’s just not something I should (or would) rush into. I have thoughts, though. I think about stopping my medications, seeing what happens. It isn’t because I want to get sicker, but because some part of me hopes that I would get better. There is no logic behind it, in fact, I know logically that it would be a terrible plan. Even on my current medications, I struggle to get by. I required IV fluids on Monday, and I’m sure gastroenterology tomorrow will decide I should be getting IV fluids more often. (At least I hope they come to that conclusion. Waiting until I’m sick enough to warrant an urgent care or ER visit, is just not good for my body.)

I want to go camping. I want to have a normal life. I want to ice skate on the beach. I want to fish off a pier.

It isn’t just about what I want though, it’s about what I need.

As I move forward with scheduling an appointment with the new mental health provider at literally the only clinic within 30 miles that takes my insurance, I have to face the reality that they’ll force me back into counseling. Don’t get me wrong, counseling is a wonderful tool, and it has definitely helped me in the past…but the type of counseling I would receive, isn’t the type of counseling that would help me in this instance. We could go through my history, and evaluate why I feel how I feel about myself, the causes for my low self esteem…but that won’t change the limitations that I have now.

I’ve found a lot of counselors don’t know how to approach someone who is chronically ill, which is a part of a the reason why I blog, and started an Instagram. It’s also why I plan on starting up a YouTube channel once I’m able to acquire the space and privacy. Us sick folks talk to one another, but we aren’t really honest about the emotional toll our illnesses take on us. We may joke about not having personal lives, being in long-term relationships with our heating pads, or cheating on Naproxen with Acetaminophen…but the thread in all of that is that we joke about it.

When you’re chronically ill, you’re more likely to make light of your difficulties, than to be honest about them. You’ve been judged for complaining, so now when you need to vent, you do it in a comical way. Friends laugh with you, even chronically ill friends…but who do you have that is willing to listen to you when you’re genuinely struggling?

I think the answer to that question is probably scary. I had a friend who would always listen to me, and I would always listen to her…until one day she told me my disease was consuming me. This was about a month ago, and I shut down. I threw myself into only being positive about my disease and the conditions that sprung off of it. And while I know that there is a lot of positive things that I can focus on as a result of having Behcet’s, I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that I grieve the loss of a lot of things, especially this time of year.

When I was younger I made plans. I was the insane planner. Even when I began to get ill, I still had plans. I didn’t think about my disease worsening. I couldn’t have imagined the path my life would take. While the divorce should have been foreseeable (it was to those around me), my Behcet’s becoming the severe was never even on my radar. My ex told me nobody would ever love a sick girl like me, but I had told myself he was only saying it to hurt me. He knew that I was insecure about my health, I still am, and he couldn’t have known at that point in time that my health would rapidly decline…still…the words haunt me.

I had plans to have kids around the age of 30. I’m 31, single, and am on several drugs that you absolutely cannot take during pregnancy. It also isn’t known whether or not the Cytoxan impacted my fertility or not. My run in with cervical cancer also cost me a chunk of my cervix, right in the center. While I was lucky not to need further treatment, just a few more biopsies and regular tests each year, I was warned that I would potentially need a cerclage during pregnancy to prevent preterm labor. Two different doctors also told me, point blank, that I would be high risk from the second I conceived. The second told me that even without the drugs I’m taking that cause issues during pregnancy, I would still need to carefully plan any pregnancies. It isn’t a case of deciding when I’m ready to start a family, it’s about actually seeing doctors months in advance for blood work, supplements, and other tests.

It isn’t just the idea of starting a family. I know that I theoretically have time for that, and there is adoption and surrogacy if carrying a child myself isn’t possible. The other issue is that it’s the holidays. While most people love this time of year, I find it utterly depressing. For years I was in an unhappy marriage, and the holidays meant making sure to put on the correct face and attitude. I had to be convincing. I had to go to my ex’s coworkers’ parties, and while there were some good times in my marriage that I could lean on for support, there were many many reasons why I was anxious in these situations. Would I say something wrong? Was he looking at me in a way that meant something I should be able to pick up on?

I had thought being free of that would mean that I could relax, but because of my health, I haven’t really been able to enjoy the holidays. While I’ll never truly know what he, or anyone else for that matter, is actually thinking during the holidays, I know that I look around and feel so utterly alone. Thanksgiving? I can’t eat. Christmas? I desperately want to ice skate this year…but I know that doing so would require adaptive equipment and I don’t want to be the girl with a walker on the ice skating rink. Perhaps I’ll go see a movie on Christmas day, to try and distract myself from just how alone I feel…but there is so much of me that resents my body during these periods of time.

Plus time! Holidays remind me that time is passing,g and I can remember last year choosing to do all of my chemo treatments near holidays so that this year the holidays would have to be better. Instead I’m being reminded that I sacrificed those holidays and now I’m stuck fighting for a treatment that manages my symptoms better. I don’t regret doing chemotherapy, it was the right choice, I’m just desperate for something that can make me enjoy my days in general.

The holidays are just anxiety provoking for me. I want so much, but am so limited. Even the idea of getting my wheelchair has been bogged down by the reality that the process takes some time…and my insurance coverage is going to be gone soon. The up and down and go-go-go of the seasons, probably give most people with chronic illnesses a bit of anxiety!

I told myself for Halloween I’d carve a pumpkin, but I didn’t. I told myself for Thanksgiving I would find gluten free stuffing, and spend time with my friend in Los Angeles, but I couldn’t. There are things I want to do for Christmas, but I’m afraid to even say what they are, because I don’t know how to make them happen. Perhaps I will go ice skate on the beach, even if it means using adaptive equipment, but I would have to do it alone. Nobody I know could afford to go, hell I can’t afford to go, but I really want to do it. (It’s on my bucket list.) The people I do know who could afford to go, probably wouldn’t want to see me with one of those stands children use to keep themselves from falling.

To be honest I really wish I could just spend a weekend in a cabin, and see the dogs play in the snow.

Well, I guess I put it into words. Perhaps the idea is to have ideas, but no expectations. I wanted to be somewhere else at this stage in my life, and I may just have to accept that my path has shifted. It doesn’t mean I won’t have the things I wanted, I just have to find a new way of getting there…

Don’t Make Decisions When You’re Panicking

Grieve and then Grow

I woke up today several times. It was one of those mornings when nausea wakes me up, so I handle it with medical marijuana because it’s the fastest working thing that won’t increase my seizure risk…then go back to sleep until it returns. My rheumatologist messaged me back and basically had said that I needed to see my primary care doctor, or go to urgent care/the ER. My primary care doctor didn’t have openings, and urgent care is closer.

At this point I know what I need…fluids and nauseas drugs. I also know the reality is I need something to make this flare go away. Nothing is going to make this flare go away, at least not anything that can be reasonably sustained over a period of time. The ER this time of year is a just a pile of germs, especially after a holiday weekend, and unfortunately urgent care wasn’t much better.

The first doctor was sort of baffled by my symptoms, and wanted me to go to the ER and be admitted to the hospital. She recognized what I already knew…anything they did today, was just going to be a stop gap measure. I needed treatment of the underlying cause, not just the symptoms. Preaching to the choir doctor…but I’m not going to hang out in the hospital while confused staff rheumatologists go through my charts and realize we’ve tried all of the conventional stuff. She also said the marijuana could be causing my constipation. The day I used the most was the day I finally went to the bathroom, probably because I was able to drink enough water that day…

So she gets a bit flustered and says she can’t make me go to the hospital, and I ask if I can get fluids and nausea meds there (in urgent care) and she says yes.

Let the process of trying to draw my blood and place an IV commence…

Look, I have bad veins by all standards, but toss in the vasculitis and even the best nurse is going to struggle. They manage to get the IV in, but drawing blood requires two nurses, because one has to keep the needle in place while the other swaps tubes. I also bleed super slow, so that was making it extra fun. After this point a new doctor comes in, because of shift change, and he’s a laid back guy. He agrees I’m flaring, contemplates trying a different steroid, but after talking about my prior issues with steroids (needing super high doses for any sort of efficacy) he agrees that my original plan makes the most sense. Get the fluids, check the labs, and switch over to a high fluid diet in lieu of solids. It’s better to eat ice pops and Jell-o, than to end up in the ER because I’ve had solids but no fluids.

When you’ve been sick for so long, you learn to sort of gauge what the right response is to whatever symptoms arise. It’s only when something new pops up, that you’re truly thrown off. My doctors, especially ER doctors who haven’t seen me before, are going to struggle a bit to process what the best course of action is. I get it. If I were any other patient, you’d keep me until I had symptom control. I won’t get symptom control that can be extended after my exit from the hospital. It isn’t a pessimistic view, it’s reality. At this point in time, there isn’t anything they can do for me during an admission, that is going to extend beyond 1-2 w weeks post admission.

That is the depressing part. I want a normal life, LA with my friends for the holidays, ice skating, and running around the beach. I want to join a sports league in my city, so I can meet new people, and bowl!

Could I bowl? Absolutely. Could I plan in advance what days I would be physically able to bowl? No. That is the part that sucks. I am normal, but I can’t be normal. I want to work, I want to buy things on Cyber Monday, and I want to make holiday plans. There are so many things my friends and family members are doing, that I just can’t, at least not consistently.

This has been the struggle with disability. There are some days when I am able, but other days when I need medical intervention just to obtain adequate hydration. I don’t get to choose which days are which. I can choose when I get some of my medical procedures, but again, that doesn’t guarantee what days I’ll feel what way.

It isn’t all, “I hate my life!”

One thing I’ve been wanting to do lately, is bring people together who struggle with chronic illnesses. I am optimistic, and I do cope, but I definitely have days when I just can’t, and that is okay! Kick, scream, cry, do whatever it is you need to do. Embrace the anger and the sadness. Why? You need to make peace with the negative parts of your illness. I always thought it was black and white. That if I was pessimistic, at all, I would be giving power to the disease. The truth is that we can’t be honestly positive, until we have embraced the things we’ve lost to our diseases.

How can I appreciate the interest I’ve found in investigative forensics, unless I own the fact that I’ve lost my ability to really be in a laboratory environment on a consistent basis? How can I appreciate the absolute amazingness of my friends who have stood by me, or have come into my life during this difficult journey, until I grieve for the friends and family that I’ve lost because they couldn’t handle my illness?

Turn the losses into gains, by acknowledging just how beautiful your new circumstances are…because they’ve grown from the loss of something else.

Grieve. I grieve the loss right now, of my ability to do the things I would normally do this time of year. I grieve the opportunity to join a sports club. I grieve for my financial losses. I grieve because it’s natural, and because I know that I will be able to connect these losses together once something beautiful has grown up from their roots.

I don’t believe that everything happens for a reason, but I do believe that positivity allows you to make sense of the things that have happened in your life.

Grieve and then Grow

Happy Thanksgiving…Send Sorbet and Hugs

I was actually excited for Thanksgiving. Even though I can’t eat much with the gastroparesis and intestinal dysmotility, I was going to be spending time with a friend I haven’t really had a chance to spend time with in years. Then Behcet’s decided it would be a good time to struggle with horrible headaches. I had a ride to LA, but given that it would take 2-3 hours without traffic, or just normal LA traffic, I knew it wouldn’t be the best decision to go. I pushed myself for the musical, then last weekend when another friend came in from out of town. My body is showing the effects.

It’s frustrating. I would have rather spent Thanksgiving with my friend in LA, but because someone else had non-refundable tickets to visit last weekend, what I’d have preferred became unobtainable. If I’d utilized the wheelchair option at the zoo, I likely would be feeling much better right now. Don’t get me wrong, I’d still be stuck in this flare, but maybe it wouldn’t be this bad. Maybe going up to LA would have been the thing that pushed my symptoms over the edge.

Thanksgiving has always been one of my least favorite holidays, anyhow. My stomach issues have been in play for quite some time. Any holiday with a focus on food, is going t be low on my list of preferred holidays. Still, I wanted to see my friend. Symptoms wise, the headaches have gotten worse. I know I need IV steroids, nausea meds, Benadryl, and something else that always forget about. The glorious migraine cocktail, just tweaked a bit. We are 100% sure that my headaches are vascular spasm related, but nothing over the counter works on them. The headaches were bad enough…but then the oral symptoms arose.

I have GI ulcers. I know I do, because of the situation with my bowel movements. They’re infrequent because of the motility issues…but I do have a whole lot of scabbing and skin coming out. Normal people would probably panic, but for me? I’m just glad there isn’t too much blood. To make things extra interesting, I developed a yeast infection. I have medication for it just always on hand, because the infections used to be so frequent. Of course the fun is figuring out what is ulcer related, what is yeast related, and whether it really matters because you’re already taking all the meds you can anyhow…

Then last night, there was some fun. I’ve had some mouth pain and swelling, which I attributed to a few ulcers, and the likelihood that I was brewing up a few more. As the pain got worse, I focused on my chronic state of dehydration. Maybe I was in pain because my mouth kept getting so dry. Last night I ate some gluten free crust with just feta on it, nothing else. I followed that up with a Pedialyte ice pop. I’m eating this ice pop, when I start to wonder two things: the first was, “why does this ice pop make my mouth burn?” and the second was, “what is that taste?”

It turns out my mouth was bleeding. Not in a few spots…just literally all over blood, oozing out of what must have been super tiny blood vessels. 

Yeah. Thanksgiving is hard when you have slow or even no motility in your stomach and intestines. It’s hard when you have GI ulcerations. It’s hard when you aren’t allowed to drive, so you can’t be at all the fun events. Thanksgiving is impossible when your mouth is on fire, and actively bleeding whenever you eat.

All the doctor’s are gone for the weekend, so I’m going to check out urgent care tomorrow if things get worse. The headache needs a cocktail I can only get in the ER, but I’m borderline functional right now. I’d rather sort the headache out at home, rather than expose myself to the ER germ factor. My mouth is a whole other story. I’ll be making some Jell-o this evening, and looking into getting some liquid food options. The most likely culprit is a combination of arteritis, oral ulcers, and thrush. With the seriousness of the yeast infection I have, I wouldn’t be shocked to find yeast was also hanging out in my mouth. It’s gross. It’s painful. It’s embarrassing.

Needing a hug boils down to the reality I’m living in. My dog needs shots, I’m running out of items to sell, and I can’t afford to get textbooks, or even feed myself, if the money I should be getting for my book stipend, food stamps, and disability, never comes. I want to work. That’s the thing people don’t seem to understand. I apply for part-time jobs that I could theoretically do via a wheelchair…but there is a pretty major limit when it comes to the availability of such jobs. My education, my prior experience, it just doesn’t lead to jobs that I can do in my current shape.

I see everyone around me being normal, and I get so frustrated that I can’t just go and be normal, too. This is one of those days where I want to kick, scream, and cry. My body is sick, and aside from brain fog, my mind isn’t. Sure, I have neurological issues, but my mental abilities don’t match with what my body can do. Hopefully the doctors will be willing to push up my IVIG plan. It’s a long shot as it is, but with the symptoms lingering around, I’m willing to take all of the shots available.

Happy Thanksgiving…Send Sorbet and Hugs

Things You Wish Came With Chronic Illness…and My New Treatment Plan

I’ve been in bed most of the day, though I do count my trip to take the dog out, and my shower, as huge successes. Currently I’m realizing that I wish my Behcet’s came with a care package, or a monthly subscription box of surprise necessities. The following would seriously be on the list:

  • Comfortable Blankets
  • Fleece Socks
  • Heating Blanket
  • Heating Pads
  • Ice Packs
  • Naproxen
  • Serenity Essential Oil (DoTerra)
  • Peppermint Oil
  • Maid Service
  • Pedialyte Pops
  • Carbonated Water
  • Amazon Gift Cards (so much to read!)
  • Pajamas
  • Comfortable Sheet Sets
  • Wheelchair Gear

I’m sure I could think of more things if I didn’t have an enormous headache. The cause isn’t clear, though I suspect a combination of factors. For one thing, I’m stressed. Financially things in my life are just a total wreck. This divorce has dragged out, as has my application for disability. Without a settlement regarding alimony, I don’t know how to set a realistic budget. Currently I’m not getting enough to survive, and to make matters worse, my book stipend has disappeared and my food stamps have been challenged along with my electricity discount.

Then there is the horrendous weekend I had. Don’t get me wrong, there were good parts, but being reminded repeatedly that your illness makes you different in negative ways, isn’t fun for anyone. Now my vape charging cord is missing. It could just be at my friend’s place…but it wouldn’t be missing at all, if the negative Nancy who thought it would be fun to rub my illness in my face, hadn’t dug through my backpack. I resorted to using my little bowl because it’s all I had, and my lungs quickly reminded me that they are not okay with that option. This has all resulted in my not having access to the vape. I rush order batteries and a charger that *may* work, and it’ll arrive tomorrow…but in the meantime I have to rely on less reliable options for my nausea. Nothing really works for the pain so I’m just living with my heating bad glued to my belly.

People think I’m all for the legalization of Marijuana, but what they don’t understand is that it’s a complicated issue for me. I do think that it’s relatively safe, compared to alcohol, but unfortunately legal recreational use means I’ll never have it covered by insurance. I have an appointment with a gastroenterologist, and I’ll ask him about Marinol (which is a drug that has synthetic THC). The issue with Marinol is that patients have reported it isn’t as effective as actual Marijuana. Not a total shock given that it’s only the THC portion, and not the other ingredients found in the actual plant.

This brings me along to my treatment plan. My rheumatologist talked with the big doctor at NYU that I saw just once, and the current plan is to increase my Mycophenalate by another gram…meaning I’d take 3 grams daily, either in three separate doses of 1000mg, or two doses of 1500mg. In case I haven’t been clear in prior blogs, I’m not a huge fan of increasing the Mycophenalate. When something doesn’t work, after a period of time, I get antsy. My neurologist wanted me to get more chemotherapy, because neurologically there is a concern that permanent damage could occur. They’ve increased one of my seizure drugs, Vimpat, and I’m already beyond the max effective dosage of my Keppra. If I’m still dealing with GI issues, neurological issues, and other signs of seriously active disease, then we’ll move to immunoglobulin therapy, IVIG. Both doctors feel that plasmapheresis would likely be ineffective with my current manifestations.

Personally I’d like to do IVIG immediately. I understand the need to go through less invasive treatments first…but this whole being miserably sick thing, gets old. I have an appointment to see a well rated gastroenterologist on the 1st of December. Even though he’s well rated, my expectations are guarded. For years GI doctors treated me like I was a psychiatric patient. I was diagnosed as anorexic and bulimic, despite repeat testing that showed blood in my bowel movements. My gallbladder actually began to die in my body, it was so severely diseased. During my laparoscopic surgery, they almost had to switch and do a full open procedure. The surgeon was concerned that the organ was so badly diseased, it wouldn’t hold up to laparoscopic removal .

Yes, you read that correctly…my gallbladder was so diseased, they thought about cutting my abdomen open to remove it, because they thought it was going to fall apart inside my body.

If you’re wondering, I have a great pain tolerance.

The gallbladder fiasco aside, there has been a lot of shrugging off of symptoms over the years, along with lost medical records. I’ve had far too many endoscopies and colonoscopies. I don’t want more. We know I have GI Behcet’s. We know I get bleeds. We know that I’ve had ulcers in my lower GI tract. We know I’ve had stomach ulcers. Why the hell would we put me through another prep, put me under sedation (which is an issue for me), scope me, and ultimately end up with inconclusive results? The nausea is from gastroparesis, but that testing wasn’t done properly either. I don’t know about the rest of society, but I really don’t want to eat more radioactive eggs, and I definitely don’t want to eat the entire meal you have to eat for the testing.

What happens if you throw up during the gastric emptying study? Do they make you eat more?

I am keeping an open mind, I just really hate the whole new doctor process. Explaining to the doctor that, yes, I really do have Behcet’s. The gluten factor is an issue as well. Some doctors are okay with someone who wasn’t diagnosed with Celiac, avoiding gluten, while other doctors are absolutely disgusted by people who don’t have Celiac avoiding gluten. I did it on my doctors recommendation, it worked for some of my symptoms, so I have continued with the diet.

My biggest GI doctor concern is how he’ll handle my use of Marijuana. I would eat 1/3 of what I currently eat, if it weren’t for cannabis. If you include how often I’d be vomiting, it would probably be less than that. I credit marijuana for helping me drink water, too. Gastroparesis is no joke, and when your intestines join the dysmotility party, it’s extra miserable. Warning: TMI information regarding poop ahead…read at your own risk.

I’m lucky if I have a bowel movement one day per week. Lately I’ve had to rely on laxatives to even have one movement per week. Even though it causes bloating and nausea, I’ve started eating dairy to get things moving along as well. The problem is I still don’t go daily…instead I seem to get one day of horrible cramping, and I got a lot. It isn’t diarrhea, but I go several times, and each time I get sweaty and w ant to throw up. My body seems to suddenly become an overachiever. It’s the lazy student, who procrastinated, but then decided to try and graduate with honors.

I will literally go days with only a few gurgles to suggest my stomach and intestines are even moving at a snail’s pace, sometimes I’ll go almost 24 hours without a sound at all. Then, on P-Day, my system goes wild, and the pooping commences

Aren’t you so glad that you’re reading this blog?

GI will weigh in on the treatment plan, but I’m hoping to get a few options for managing symptoms. Critical for me would be IV fluid therapy. Just going in 2-3 times a week, to bump up my hydration, would really work wonders I’m sure. I’d also like some better nausea management skills. It would be great to get IM options for some of my medications, but dosing makes that impossible. I don’t want a port, at all, because they terrify me, but moments like this make me think about how nice they can be. IV nausea medication would change my life, but the cannabis is probably safer!

Right now I’m in Victoria’s Secret sweat pants, some random free t-shirt, and fuzzy socks. I’m covered with a gorgeous fleece blanket, both dogs, and I have a heating pad across my abdomen. Bonus sick-chick points for the literally seven pillows I have in play to keep this blog post, and myself, together.

There is no correct treatment plan for all patients with Behcet’s. We all have different expressions of the disease, different tolerances for the various medications uses to treat the disease, and different personal views on being sick. Right now I’m just repeating that to myself. I want there to be a linear path I take towards wellness, but that isn’t how illnesses like this work. I know I need to stay positive. I can’t control the various things the disease decides to do, but I can combat them with the right tools. One of the biggest tools in my arsenal, is a positive attitude.

Things You Wish Came With Chronic Illness…and My New Treatment Plan